If something isn’t right, surely it’s wrong? What’s all this wishy- washy, halfway-between-the-two kind of stuff? For some while, you’ve been making excuses for someone’s behaviour. You know things could be better but you want to show generosity of spirit and depth of understanding. That’s all admirable. But aren’t you, in the process, compromising something that you ought to be defending and protecting? Emotionally at least, it’s time now to draw a line and put yourself on one side or the other of it.